Best Advice for Moms-to-be

In a few months, I’m going to be a first-time mother. Am I nervous? Yes, because I’ve heard so many mixed reviews from veteran moms and moms on what to expect.

Breastfeeding? It’s hard and your boobs leak, so if you want to re-think that, maybe you should stick to formula.

You’re never going to sleep again.

And, the list goes on and on. So, I made a post on my facebook page asking the best advice to provide news moms-to-be.

So, if you’re looking for advice, read the following:

  • You need all the baby blankets you can get! you will never have enough!

  • Tell everyone with advice that doesn’t include free food, coffee and them actually helping so you can shower/nap/etc to kindly shush.

  • Trust your mind and body instincts! And don’t EVER be afraid to ask for help or get help if needed! Your health is just as important as your baby’s health! 

  • Enjoy every moment the time will go fast. You will make mistakes its ok we are human. Take time for yourself.

  • Make noise! You don’t want a light sleeper! Also babies are like flowers. They need lots of sun, water, and fresh air to grow!

  • Don’t be afraid, the mommy instinct kicks in immediately 💗

  • Sleep now as much as you can.

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help or to accept anyone you trust to help you.

  • Not everyone can or wants to breastfeed, which is totally fine (fed is best), but if you do... Breastfeeding is not intuitive and can be really challenging, even painful, at first. Feeding a baby is extremely time consuming in the early weeks (newborns eat every 2 hours and feedings can take 40 minutes leaving little time between feeds). It gets much easier and faster as the baby gets older. My 4 month old can eat in 7 minutes now vs 45 when he was 2 weeks old. Having a comfortable spot to feed the baby or pump with good back support really helps as does a supportive partner who can bring you snacks and drinks. :) I also highly recommend the Breastfeeding Center for any issues that may come up. My other advice is to take it easy and let people help you! Also, know that whatever issue comes your way, you can handle it. You were born to do this!!!

  • Sleep when baby sleeps — And KEGELS!

  • It’s easier to travel with an infant than it is a toddler so if you plan to do any do it when he or she is younger.  You will miss the days when your child was a baby. You may be sleep deprived but you’ll never get back the days when they are attached to you 24/7 so cherish those days and don’t wish them away.  Take more videos of your child then photos. You can show them what they were like when they were little and it’s the only way you can relive their childhood. And back up all your photos and videos on multiple platforms.  Trust your instincts. It’s often when we take advice from others when we fail as parents. You know your child better than anyone else, even the doctors(but don’t dismiss them altogether).  Have their handprints and footprints casted or printed with ink. They will never be that little again. 
    Don’t be too hard on yourself. You will make mistakes but you learn and you grow together! Lastly enjoy it because it it’s way too fast, and it’s not just a saying. It’s legitimately true but you have to live through it to see. Trust us!

  • Don't let anyone's naysaying and horror stories make you fearful of becoming a mother! Everyone told me I wouldn't be able to shower again, warned me about colic and told me I would never sleep again. I've showered everyday since my daughters birth and she was sleeping through the night at 7 weeks and she's exclusively breastfed and I'm a single mother with no spousal help! I wasted a lot of time being anxious and scared for nothing!

  • Have a schedule!!!! Will save your life.

  • Get a doula 😉 Go to breastfeeding support groups early on - they are game-changers. Bonding doesn't always happen immediately. Stay in God's Word...even I'd you have to change up the time you read/how you read.