How To Have A Healthy Pregnancy

Honestly, my pregnancy has been pretty flawless. I mean, sure I’m exhausted, nauseous, have heartburn, can’t sleep, cannot stand to sit at a desk like I used to and feel like a blimp, but I’m lucky that I’ve had a good pregnancy. And, I’ve always been health-conscious and knew that would still remain true during pregnancy. I promised myself that I’d give in to my cravings, but wouldn’t go too overboard.

I’ve gained about 25 pounds and I’m 30 weeks & a few days, but the weight has been in my breasts and my growing bump, but nowhere else, so again, I say I’m lucky. Every woman is different and I get that, but there are ways to can have a healthy pregnancy.

1) Exercise. You’re probably thinking two things: duh or I’m way too tired! Okay, okay, I get it. BUT, even if you go for a 10-15 minute walk, that still counts as exercise. You won’t want to do it every day because gosh, that fatigue is intense, but try to do it when you can! Or, hop on the elliptical, treadmill, walk around your office. ANY form of exercise is GREAT during pregnancy.

2) Listen to your body. I CANNOT stress this enough. Are you really hungry or are you thirsty? Do you really want to eat 3 cheeseburgers? Why not have 1 and then some fruit or veggies with it? I get it, we all have cravings. I know I do, but you should NOT go overboard. In my opinion, it doesn’t give you permission to overeat because then you’ll end up feeling like shit afterward. Eat the damn burger and fries, but try not continue on the greasy foods pattern the rest of the day.

3) Drink water. WATER, WATER, WATER! Is water boring? Put citrus in it to spice it up. Lemons, oranges, limes, cucumbers, whatever floats your boat. I promise, it won’t taste as bad. Plus, it will help cleanse and flush out the toxins.

4) Meal prep. This makes things soooo much easier on the days you’re exhausted. Lately, when I bake, I usually make more so I can freeze it eat later on. Most nights I come home and simply do not feel like cooking!

5) Spend time with family & friends. We all crave connecting with other human beings and there’s nothing healthier than spending an evening or afternoon surrounded by your loved ones. Go out to dinner, go shopping, do something that makes you happy.

6) Don’t obsess over your weight. Gosh, you have to practice what you preach, right? This is more like a reminder for myself more than anything! It might be hard to watch the scale go up and up, but just remember that you’re growing a human being! Your body is doing AMAZING things!

7) Don’t stress! Stressing about things you cannot control or work-related situations isn’t always preventable, but also isn’t good for the baby, so when you feel like you’re stressing, either walk away from the situation, meditate or do something that relaxes you!

8) Sit outside. I’ve found sitting outside not only gives me Vitamin D, but also makes me happy. Getting the fresh air does wonders for me. Just feeling the breeze will make you feel more content.

9) Sit down! So, you’ve been running around all day. You need to give your body rest and please reminder that it’s okay to sit down. When I sit for a long period of time, I feel guilty and lazy, but really I need to remember that growing a human being is HARD. It’s exhausting and not easy, so taking that time is extremely important.

10) Take a nap. Feeling tired? Well, I pretty much feel tired every single day and when I get a chance, I try to take a nap. I remind myself that it’s okay, just like sitting down and watching TV once in a while. So, if you’re tired, do it! You deserve it because you’re amazing!

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This is How I Feel About Traveling Alone....

I sat in a restaurant at the bar waiting for my iced vanilla latte with almond milk and my breakfast bowl.  I was alone. And, I started to feel a sense of extreme loneliness.

I came to Oklahoma City for a work conference and it was no big deal when my president booked the hotel and flight until I got to the restaurant. I've ever gone out to eat by myself and so, I didn't know what to do. I seemed to be the only one who was by themself and I felt like the bartender was judging me. 

Do I pretend like I'm looking at something on my phone? Do I talk to the bartender, who seemed as if he didn't want to converse? No one was sitting near me, so there was no one to chat with. So, I sat there taking a few Instagram videos looking forward to getting back to the hotel where I wouldn't feel judged. It was pretty apparent that I already - mind you it's been 7 hours - missed my husband. Pathetic, much? Yeah, but I just felt so lonely. 

I've never traveled somewhere solely by myself. Sure - I've gone to PA and traveled by plane, but my brother and girlfriend picked me up at the airport and I was seeing family. I've also gone to Canada by myself, but again, I was meeting someone at the airport. This was THE first time I've been alone. I mean, tonight we're networking and registering for the conference, but leading up to that, I've just felt sad. 

I never focus on the fact that I'll be alone and I'm glad I don't, but it always surprises me whenever I feel this way. You SHOULD be alone sometimes and re-group because we all need time apart from our significant other. We need that time in order to truly appreciate them. I just feel like this day has been going on forever! I had a layover, which felt even longer and so, now I'm a tad confused as to what day it is! 

But, sometimes you need to step out of your comfort zone. Sometimes you need to feel uncomfortable because you learn more about yourself. So what if I miss my husband, that doesn't mean I won't mingle or network with my colleagues. That doesn't mean I'm not happy to be here. That doesn't mean that I'm not excited to learn.  It just means I prefer to travel with someone else, no big deal. I would say the common person likes to be with other people. 

How do YOU feel about traveling alone?  Leave your comments below.

Melancholy; a feeling of pensive sadness, typically with no obvious cause

On a Friday evening, I started feeling sad. If you asked me, "what's wrong?" I would probably shrug and the tears might form in my eyes. 

You ever have those days where you can't explain why your throat feels like it's clenching? If you're not an emotional person - like myself - it's even harder to comprehend. I guess it's normal to have those days though. I suppose everyone goes through melancholy.

It's how you handle it that counts the most. It's distracting yourself and finding ways to bring up your mood. Though, sometimes, nothing seems to work and you can just end up basking in your sadness without a solution. 

When you feel this way, here are a few things to do.

1) Go for a run. Clear your head with music that makes you happy. 

2) Call a friend. Your bestie knows you better than anyone else, so she will definitely be able to cheer you up in a jiffy!

3) Write. Put your feelings into words and try t o make sense of how you're feeling.

4) Go out for coffee with a friend. Discussing your feelings and thoughts might be exactly what you need.

5) Put on some tunes and dance. Music is rather smoothing and sometimes cures a bad mood. 

Lastly, if you ever need to talk, be sure to reach out. I'm here for you: simplyrealhope@gmail.com.

Please Stop Saying Prince Charming Is Right Around The Corner

When I was single, I was so sick of people saying, “oh, it’s just not meant to be.”

I’d cringe every time I’d hear someone mumble those damn words.

I understand they were trying to make me feel better, but I just wanted to say shut the f**k up!

It never made me feel at ease. It just annoyed me and made me want to slap them.

It’s funny that I bring this up because I’ve caught myself saying this phrase to my single friends. But, sometimes, I just don’t know what to say. 

I mean, in my heart I know my girls will find the right guy, but I just don’t know when that will be.

Here’s the thing: when I met my husband, I wasn’t looking for a relationship. In fact, I didn’t want to have anything to do with men. I was so tired of dating guys, so I focused on my career instead. But, then, one day, Brett came along and the rest is history.

So, this is the advice I can give you: it will happen when you least expect it because well, life is so unpredictable and you cannot predict when the right guy will come along.

But, for those who are telling girls that prince charming is right around the corner, please stop unless you have like a crystal ball. If you can, in fact, see the future then I’ll allow you to say that phrase and tell me what's ahead because I'd sure as hell like to know!

There’s also one thing you must remember: even though you crave a guy to take care of you, there are pros to being single.

You get plenty alone time to focus on hobbies, writing, crafts and hanging with friends.  Also, you don’t have to worry about checking in with your guy or getting to know his friends. And, I'm sure there are other things but I'm just going to leave you with the two most important!

Just keep those pros in mind late at night when you want to cuddle with someone.

It’s natural to want to be with someone because we all want to be loved, but unfortunately the more you want something, it never really happens. It usually occurs when you don’t care or aren’t looking for a boyfriend.

And, that’s not bullshit, it really does normally happen like that.

I just want people to stop feeding you lines because they’d like to make you feel better because it doesn’t help or work!

Just tell me to focus on my own stuff and then at some point the guy I’m destined to be with will walk by.