Third Trimester and All The Feels

It’s been a while since I’ve shared a personal blog post and so I felt like it was time to talk about my pregnancy. Before I was pregnant, I’ve always said once I was carrying, I wasn’t going to make it a big deal. Was I thankful to be carry a baby? Hell yes, but that didn’t take away the fact that I wasn’t going to be talking about it non-stop because I’m not that person.

Throughout this pregnancy, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I got lucky. Have I felt nauseous off and on, heartburn, exhausted? Hell yeah, but those symptoms are common. I tested negative to gestational diabetes, haven’t gained weight in any other spots - besides my belly and still don’t look almost 35 weeks pregnant. Some days I just look bloated, but not really pregnant. Honestly, I look like I was pregnant before and am now trying to lose the weight.

I cannot believe how quickly May has flown by! According to the app Ovia, I have 5 weeks, 2 days left until our baby girl arrives. Like, holy shit! The realism has started to sink in that I’m going to be a mom. It feels like I’ve been pregnant forever though.

Thinking back to the night I took the test and found out I was in fact pregnant is CRAZY. I was so emotional, sad and wasn’t sure if I was ready for all of this, but ready or not, she’s coming soon! I feel different now, but my first initial thought was, can I really do this? Can I really bring a baby into this world? Am I ready for my body to completely change?

I’m sure there are many women who go through similar emotions, but no one ever talks about them. I mean, I’ve always been VERY self-conscious about my body and gaining weight, but I’ve had to set that aside because, well, I’m growing a human being, so I cannot be so concerned. I just watch what I eat and try to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

In terms of her room, it’s all ready for her arrival, I’m preparing my hospital bag within the next few weeks, and then we’ll assemble the car seat.

I also wanted to just give you a breakdown of my symptoms each trimester:

First Trimester:

Nauseous
EXHAUSTED
Hungry all the time

Second Trimester:

More energized
Nauseous
Heartburn
Headaches

Third Trimester (up until now):

Feeling bloated all the time
Constantly having to pee
Nauseous (yeah, I wish I could say that went away)
Hungry most of the time

Again, all the symptoms I’ve named above are common and most women experience them, but for someone who has never had children, it was all new to me. At this point, I cannot sleep through the night because I wake up peeing at least 3-4 times (despite not having water) and often cannot get comfortable. My biggest issue is I’m a bad sleeper and they say NOT to sleep on your back because the weight of my uterus can compress a major blood vessel, called the vena cava. I don’t do it on purpose, but in the morning, I somehow end up waking up on my back. And, I don’t know how to prevent that from happening. If you have any tips, let me know!

So, I’m happy to report I’m almost at full-term (which will be on June 4th) = 36 weeks! HOLY. SHIT.

What To Do If You’re Unhappy With Your Life

It’s Sunday night and knowing you have work the next day makes you feel sick.

Well, that’s a red flag in itself.

It might be time to make a career or job change. If you’re unhappy with your job situation, here are a few things you can do.

  1. Jot down things you’re good at. Are you an expert at writing, editing or social media? If so, have you thought about opening up a business? If you have the funds, it’s seriously something to consider.

  2. Changing your mindset. Sometimes just changing your mindset and thinking more positively can equal happiness.

  3. Make a list of what makes you happy. What brings you joy? What do you love? Concentrate on the things that elicit happiness.

  4. Hang out with positive people. Instead of getting together with people who bring you down, make a date to hang with those who make you feel motivated.

  5. Talk to a therapist. If your unhappiness is bringing you down and you’ve vented to friends, significant other and family and still don’t feel at ease, maybe talking to a therapist is the trick. It might make you feel better and help you figure out how to achieve happiness!

Wanna chat? I'm here: hopeandlove89@gmail.com!

This is How I Feel About Traveling Alone....

I sat in a restaurant at the bar waiting for my iced vanilla latte with almond milk and my breakfast bowl.  I was alone. And, I started to feel a sense of extreme loneliness.

I came to Oklahoma City for a work conference and it was no big deal when my president booked the hotel and flight until I got to the restaurant. I've ever gone out to eat by myself and so, I didn't know what to do. I seemed to be the only one who was by themself and I felt like the bartender was judging me. 

Do I pretend like I'm looking at something on my phone? Do I talk to the bartender, who seemed as if he didn't want to converse? No one was sitting near me, so there was no one to chat with. So, I sat there taking a few Instagram videos looking forward to getting back to the hotel where I wouldn't feel judged. It was pretty apparent that I already - mind you it's been 7 hours - missed my husband. Pathetic, much? Yeah, but I just felt so lonely. 

I've never traveled somewhere solely by myself. Sure - I've gone to PA and traveled by plane, but my brother and girlfriend picked me up at the airport and I was seeing family. I've also gone to Canada by myself, but again, I was meeting someone at the airport. This was THE first time I've been alone. I mean, tonight we're networking and registering for the conference, but leading up to that, I've just felt sad. 

I never focus on the fact that I'll be alone and I'm glad I don't, but it always surprises me whenever I feel this way. You SHOULD be alone sometimes and re-group because we all need time apart from our significant other. We need that time in order to truly appreciate them. I just feel like this day has been going on forever! I had a layover, which felt even longer and so, now I'm a tad confused as to what day it is! 

But, sometimes you need to step out of your comfort zone. Sometimes you need to feel uncomfortable because you learn more about yourself. So what if I miss my husband, that doesn't mean I won't mingle or network with my colleagues. That doesn't mean I'm not happy to be here. That doesn't mean that I'm not excited to learn.  It just means I prefer to travel with someone else, no big deal. I would say the common person likes to be with other people. 

How do YOU feel about traveling alone?  Leave your comments below.

Melancholy; a feeling of pensive sadness, typically with no obvious cause

On a Friday evening, I started feeling sad. If you asked me, "what's wrong?" I would probably shrug and the tears might form in my eyes. 

You ever have those days where you can't explain why your throat feels like it's clenching? If you're not an emotional person - like myself - it's even harder to comprehend. I guess it's normal to have those days though. I suppose everyone goes through melancholy.

It's how you handle it that counts the most. It's distracting yourself and finding ways to bring up your mood. Though, sometimes, nothing seems to work and you can just end up basking in your sadness without a solution. 

When you feel this way, here are a few things to do.

1) Go for a run. Clear your head with music that makes you happy. 

2) Call a friend. Your bestie knows you better than anyone else, so she will definitely be able to cheer you up in a jiffy!

3) Write. Put your feelings into words and try t o make sense of how you're feeling.

4) Go out for coffee with a friend. Discussing your feelings and thoughts might be exactly what you need.

5) Put on some tunes and dance. Music is rather smoothing and sometimes cures a bad mood. 

Lastly, if you ever need to talk, be sure to reach out. I'm here for you: simplyrealhope@gmail.com.

Please Stop Saying Prince Charming Is Right Around The Corner

When I was single, I was so sick of people saying, “oh, it’s just not meant to be.”

I’d cringe every time I’d hear someone mumble those damn words.

I understand they were trying to make me feel better, but I just wanted to say shut the f**k up!

It never made me feel at ease. It just annoyed me and made me want to slap them.

It’s funny that I bring this up because I’ve caught myself saying this phrase to my single friends. But, sometimes, I just don’t know what to say. 

I mean, in my heart I know my girls will find the right guy, but I just don’t know when that will be.

Here’s the thing: when I met my husband, I wasn’t looking for a relationship. In fact, I didn’t want to have anything to do with men. I was so tired of dating guys, so I focused on my career instead. But, then, one day, Brett came along and the rest is history.

So, this is the advice I can give you: it will happen when you least expect it because well, life is so unpredictable and you cannot predict when the right guy will come along.

But, for those who are telling girls that prince charming is right around the corner, please stop unless you have like a crystal ball. If you can, in fact, see the future then I’ll allow you to say that phrase and tell me what's ahead because I'd sure as hell like to know!

There’s also one thing you must remember: even though you crave a guy to take care of you, there are pros to being single.

You get plenty alone time to focus on hobbies, writing, crafts and hanging with friends.  Also, you don’t have to worry about checking in with your guy or getting to know his friends. And, I'm sure there are other things but I'm just going to leave you with the two most important!

Just keep those pros in mind late at night when you want to cuddle with someone.

It’s natural to want to be with someone because we all want to be loved, but unfortunately the more you want something, it never really happens. It usually occurs when you don’t care or aren’t looking for a boyfriend.

And, that’s not bullshit, it really does normally happen like that.

I just want people to stop feeding you lines because they’d like to make you feel better because it doesn’t help or work!

Just tell me to focus on my own stuff and then at some point the guy I’m destined to be with will walk by.

Don't Punish Yourself For Not Working Out

I tend to workout at least 6 days a week. I usually give myself one rest day to relax and drink some wine, but that's at the end of the week, not at the beginning.

A few hours ago, my husband and I decided to go to this dinner with the doctor event at this Japanese restaurant in town and so, I knew I wouldn't get the chance to workout. And, I accepted it.

Well, it turned out we ran late, so we couldn't go.

While my body was telling me, "okay, now you'll have time to go workout," my mind was telling me to chill, drink some wine and have a slice of cake. It was telling me I deserve it because I survived yet another Monday. Then, I thought, "yeah, why not?" I'll just have to workout every day for the next few days and that's okay. It's alright to treat yourself.

I tend to stick to a schedule during the week and stay away from eating after dinner. I usually allow myself to do that on weekends, but rarely do it during the week. But, today. I'm thinking maybe my body needs it. I just paid off my student loans, so it's like a gift to myself. I should be proud of myself and my accomplishments.

I've always had body issues, but I don't know why. I'm a thin girl with a nice figure, yet I've ALWAYS torn myself to shreds thinking I was fat. It seems I'm a rather mean girl on the inside. My mother has always wondered why I didn't have confidence in my appearance. And, I've wondered the same.

But, not today.

Today I decided to eat cake and drink wine.