Here's Why You Need to Take Risks......

“Dude, we moved here on the skin of our teeth,” I heard my husband say to his brother-in-law yesterday on the phone.

Oh, right. I almost forgot.

For those of you who are skeptical about taking risks and scared shitless to jump, I say go for it! Honestly, you’ll learn so much about yourself in the process that it will be worth it.

Let me take you back to January 2017 (where I did just that!)

We just got married two months prior to that and we were living with his folks in a 2-bedroom apartment. In March, our lease was up and we had two options: 1) move to Delaware with his parents in their new house, 2) come up with a plan to somehow move away (again). We both struggled with this and went back and forth as to where we should go. At the time, he was going to school in North Carolina to pursue a career as a home inspector. He would make trips every other week back and forth. I was working part-time and he was on unemployment, so we didn’t have tons of money coming in. So, traveling back and forth was draining our bank account and him. He would come home after his trip absolutely exhausted. He would left PA on Wednesday afternoon, stay at a hotel Wednesday and Thursday night, and then leave after his class on Friday evening. Keep in mind the drive was 10 hours and I felt bad for my poor husband who was doing his damnest to pursue a new career. And, I commend him for his dedication.

It was getting closer and closer to the time we had to make a decision.

This was when we decided to move to Greenville because he was offered a home inspection job in Asheville once he was done his schooling. Not to mention, his trips would only be 3 hours instead of 10!

In the back of my mind, I was afraid that the same thing that happened in Tennessee would haunt us again in South Carolina, but was willing to take the risk. And, when I say we took a risk, I meant it.

When we moved here, he used an offer letter the company he was supposed to work for and I used the offer letter from my remote position. We both did not have jobs so, we were left using our savings and then gradually, I saw an even bigger dip in our bank account.

Luckily, it only took me a month to find a full-time job.

Fast forward to now, we’re living in a house. But, moral of this story is don’t let fear hold you back. Though, it’s scary, you never know what door it could open for you. You never know what could come out of it.

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Cheap Afternoon Date

Five years ago (almost exactly), my husband and I planned to go apple picking, but when we got there, we learned it was way too late in the season, so we were bummed. Well, fast forward to now, I told him I wanted to try again. Yeah, I know what you’re thinking, why didn’t you just try the following year and truthfully, I have no idea.

But, nevertheless, on Sunday afternoon, we made our way to Hendersonville, NC to check out Sky Top Orchard. I heard it was a bit on the pricey side, but at the same time, I also heard the view was AMAZING! Since getting into nutrition, I’ve been avoiding trying to avoid buying apples from the grocery store because I have no idea if they’re truly organic (you can never trust the marketing around organic food) and since apples are listed as #4 on the 2018 Dirty Dozen, I’ve been very careful where I get them from. To ensure there aren’t any pesticides in your apples, I’d advise to buy directly from a farm and ask questions, be curious about how the apples are grown and what soil is used! When it comes to your health, you can never be too cautious.

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Going back to the view, it was amazing and I got a bunch of pictures to show for it. And, holy cow, the bags of apples they sell are gigantic! I absolutely love apples, so apple picking is one of my favorite activities. Not only is it a good first date, it’s an inexpensive activity for your family and friends. And, Hendersonville is so close to us that you can get there in about 45 minutes, so it’s also an awesome day trip. The only complaint I had had nothing to do with the orchard itself, but rather, the weather. Holy hell was it hot! Why has fall not made it’s appearance yet? What are we waiting for? I just want sweater weather. I’m so sick of sweating.

For an afternoon treat, we got a caramel apple and apple cider, which were both delicious. My only regret was not standing in the line for an apple cider donut. I told my husband I’ll make it up to him by making them myself! But, overall, it was a nice afternoon activity and was also refreshing to get away from house repairs for a few hours. 👍👍

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"Fitting Out"

I learned the concept “fitting out” at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Basically, what it means is instead of trying to fit in with the crowd, you should stand out because we’ve taught our brains to be wired unlike the average person. We don’t see the world in the same way the average person sees it.

I’ve witnessed it myself, especially at my last job where the women would emphasize how healthy they were while in reality they were either eating smaller portions or TV dinners they deemed “healthy.” But, it’s not their fault because they were never educated about health + wellness. Not to mention, there’s different theories that emerge all the time in the media, magazines, TV, etc. They definitely do not think the same way I do and that’s okay. But, I guess I’m scared to “fit out” because I want to be accepted. And, the confusion lays in that sometimes I crave attention and other times I just want to bury myself underneath the surface. I guess it all depends on how the day is going.

But, IIN encourages you to be different and proud. They teach this theory because it’s important to embrace who you are instead of being someone you’re not. And, the average person does not spend 3-4 hours at a grocery store looking at the ingredients or looking up recipes for their upcoming grocery list or plan out in their head what their breakfast, lunch and dinner looks like like I do.

“Fitting out” is about saying NO when you’re offered food you don’t normally eat just so you don’t look weird. Yup, that’s me though. Today I ate a slice of dominos pizza despite the fact that I would never be caught dead eating that because it’s so unhealthy. But, no one gets it and I should have spoken up and said politely, “no, thank you,” but I just wanted to fit in with everyone else despite the fact that I knew how unhealthy and bad that piece of pizza was for me, but I kept on eating it.

It’s hard. But, you know what, this concept is about celebrating the fact that I’m different than most people. People may label me as “picky,” but it’s really the fact that I care about what I put in my body. I’m sorry that you don’t care what foods you eat on a daily basis, but I do and I need to respect myself enough to say NO. I need to accept myself as I am. I’m proud of who I am and where I’ve come from and at the end of the day, that should be all that matters. I need to stop hiding who I am and just be ME. And, today I want YOU to be yourself.