Simple Ways To Optimize Your Life

If you’re searching for simple ways to optimize your life, look no further! Check out the ways to do just that.

EATING HABITS

Chew your food – when eating, make sure you taste your food. Can you name a time you remember really tasting what you ate or do you find yourself just stuffing your face at your desk without acknowledging the texture and flavor? Start taking the time to focus on every aspect and component of the foods that enter your mouth.

Make every meal pleasurable – at the start of every meal, make sure you get a whiff of it and take a good long hard look at it.

Listen to your body and notice how it reacts to certain foods – almost every magazine is talking about the benefits of smoothies, oatmeal and overnight oats, but the question is can your body handle those foods? Just because the media bombards us with the foods “we should be eating” doesn’t mean that your body agrees.

RELATIONSHIPS

Communicate with your significant other, family and friends – when it comes to relationships, it takes work to maintain them. So, make sure you’re communicating your feelings, emotions and talk out your issues with your loved ones. The worst thing is bottling up your emotions only to explode later on.

Get a promotion? Celebrate with family and friends! It’s always nice to celebrate the small triumphs that life brings us. And, why not do it with the people you love?

Write out what you’re grateful for – feel like you haven’t spelled out what your grateful for when it comes to your friendships? Take the time to write a list of things and send it to your friend. You never know when he or she may need this sort of thing!

ATTITUDE

Honor negative thoughts – though your initial reaction is to avoid anything negative, dealing with those thoughts will help you learn what to do when you start feeling the negativity.

Develop a sense of humor – if you take life too seriously, you may end up barreling into a downward spiral. So, laugh at yourself every once in a while!

Take time to spend outside – Vitamin D + the sunshine will instantly make you feel better. Make sure you get fresh air every chance you get!

Enjoy your life – dance, take a yoga class, blast the radio – whatever makes you feel better after a long-hard day! It will put you in a better mood.

HOME PRACTICES

Make sure your house is clean – when we have a clean house, we just feel our mood perk up! Remember a clean home is a happy home.

Minimize technology time – if you find yourself on your phone or watching TV more than the average person, you may want to step back and read, exercise or meditate instead.

Buy plants for your home – including plants in your home may just be the ticket to happiness!

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How to Start Your Week on the Right Foot

Sunday nights.

They’re rough on all of us. The next day is Monday and so the circle of dread begins. I get it because I’m with you. The weekend is filled with laughter, fun & you can stay up late! But, on week days, you need to be responsible & go to bed at a reasonable hour in order to feel your best!

But, I’m here to tell you that Sunday night doesn’t have to be filled with dread. You can change your attitude and I’ll tell you how by focusing on the good things happening during the week.

1) Meal prep on Sunday. This will start your week on the right foot because you’re less likely to reach for processed foods. Bring foods you’ll look forward to eating!

2) Set your clothes out the night before. Want to catch some extra Zzz’s? Make sure you pick out your clothes the night before to avoid being late the next day & maybe you’ll get to sleep in for a few the next day.

3) Meditate on Monday morning. Before going to work on Monday morning, take 30 minutes out to meditate and cleanse your mind before heading into work.

4) Make plans after work. Get together with friends after work, so you have something to look forward to. Grab a coffee or a glass of wine & relax with your best gal pals.

5) Schedule a date night. Book a reservation at your favorite restaurant & surprise your significant other with a date night!

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You Live & You Learn. Here's What Happened To Me.....

“You owe a couple thousand dollars for taxes,” said our accountant. I sat there in AWE. It was shocked beyond disbelief.

My husband & I had never owed money. I mean, he had a hunch that we would need to pay money, but I had no idea.

On top of that, we just learned that something is wrong with the circuit board on the outside unit of our HVAC system, so that’s going to cost us some money. Right now we’re not really running the heat in order to save money. Our last two bills for our electric were a couple hundred dollars, vs $80, which is what we were paying at our apartment.

Not to mention, I found out today that my dog chewed my prescription glasses, so that’s another expense we never took into account. Oh, and, we’re spending a couple thousand every month just to LIVE. It’s disgusting & absolutely frustrating.

So, I went into the garage, went on the elliptical & cried.

I cried because I feel like everything is crashing down. I feel like we just can’t catch a break no matter what we do in life. Every time we want to save money, it always bites us in the ass. Every time we think we’re about to get ahead in life, we get a set-back. I know, I know, that’s life and there are SO MANY worse things that could have happened. I know that I need to appreciate what I have, but why can’t I be frustrated? Do I have to be happy ALL THE TIME?

But, this is it: in life, there’s always a lesson to be learned.

You should put away money for taxes.

You should have an emergency account.

You shouldn’t leave your glasses where your dog can reach.

You need to spend less money on groceries.

For me, those are just some things that come to mind. But, it’s not that simple for some people. Some people are struggling & trying to stay above water while the waves continue to crash down. And, I know that. I remind myself that every time something bad happens.

I start focusing on the positives.

Do I have a nice house? Heck yeah.

Do I deserve it? Heck yeah! My husband & I worked hard for this house & it’s about time we got SOMETHING that we wanted. We’ve been through so much shit and we’re just getting started.

But, you live & you learn. So, let me ask you: what lessons in life have you learned?

This is How I Feel About Traveling Alone....

I sat in a restaurant at the bar waiting for my iced vanilla latte with almond milk and my breakfast bowl.  I was alone. And, I started to feel a sense of extreme loneliness.

I came to Oklahoma City for a work conference and it was no big deal when my president booked the hotel and flight until I got to the restaurant. I've ever gone out to eat by myself and so, I didn't know what to do. I seemed to be the only one who was by themself and I felt like the bartender was judging me. 

Do I pretend like I'm looking at something on my phone? Do I talk to the bartender, who seemed as if he didn't want to converse? No one was sitting near me, so there was no one to chat with. So, I sat there taking a few Instagram videos looking forward to getting back to the hotel where I wouldn't feel judged. It was pretty apparent that I already - mind you it's been 7 hours - missed my husband. Pathetic, much? Yeah, but I just felt so lonely. 

I've never traveled somewhere solely by myself. Sure - I've gone to PA and traveled by plane, but my brother and girlfriend picked me up at the airport and I was seeing family. I've also gone to Canada by myself, but again, I was meeting someone at the airport. This was THE first time I've been alone. I mean, tonight we're networking and registering for the conference, but leading up to that, I've just felt sad. 

I never focus on the fact that I'll be alone and I'm glad I don't, but it always surprises me whenever I feel this way. You SHOULD be alone sometimes and re-group because we all need time apart from our significant other. We need that time in order to truly appreciate them. I just feel like this day has been going on forever! I had a layover, which felt even longer and so, now I'm a tad confused as to what day it is! 

But, sometimes you need to step out of your comfort zone. Sometimes you need to feel uncomfortable because you learn more about yourself. So what if I miss my husband, that doesn't mean I won't mingle or network with my colleagues. That doesn't mean I'm not happy to be here. That doesn't mean that I'm not excited to learn.  It just means I prefer to travel with someone else, no big deal. I would say the common person likes to be with other people. 

How do YOU feel about traveling alone?  Leave your comments below.

Melancholy; a feeling of pensive sadness, typically with no obvious cause

On a Friday evening, I started feeling sad. If you asked me, "what's wrong?" I would probably shrug and the tears might form in my eyes. 

You ever have those days where you can't explain why your throat feels like it's clenching? If you're not an emotional person - like myself - it's even harder to comprehend. I guess it's normal to have those days though. I suppose everyone goes through melancholy.

It's how you handle it that counts the most. It's distracting yourself and finding ways to bring up your mood. Though, sometimes, nothing seems to work and you can just end up basking in your sadness without a solution. 

When you feel this way, here are a few things to do.

1) Go for a run. Clear your head with music that makes you happy. 

2) Call a friend. Your bestie knows you better than anyone else, so she will definitely be able to cheer you up in a jiffy!

3) Write. Put your feelings into words and try t o make sense of how you're feeling.

4) Go out for coffee with a friend. Discussing your feelings and thoughts might be exactly what you need.

5) Put on some tunes and dance. Music is rather smoothing and sometimes cures a bad mood. 

Lastly, if you ever need to talk, be sure to reach out. I'm here for you: simplyrealhope@gmail.com.

It Hurts When They Leave....

They left at 4:00am this morning.

I opened my eyes after I heard my husband get up to say goodbye. A few minutes later, I listened as the front door opened and closed.

They were gone.

They had to make their way back home to Delaware to get back to their routine and we had to do the same. When I woke up and got ready for work, that feeling overcame by whole body. If you have family that lives in another state, you know the feeling of loneliness when they leave. It's a sinking feeling of emptiness. You've spent four consecutive days with these people only for them to leave. You're left wondering when the next time you see them will be. 

But, if you're the one who moved, it's inevitable. You're the one who made the choice to leave the area, so you need to deal with the sadness when they depart.  Tears don't stream down your face, but their presence is definitely missed.

You feel yourself getting excited days before they arrive because you never have guests. You plan, organize and rearrange your schedule for them. You feel happy to see familiar faces and get to spend time creating memories. One day they won't be here and so, you find yourself cherishing every single moment of each day. 

Even though you have to alter your routine for a few days, it's worth it. You feel happy in their presence and miss them because you don't get to see them that often.

We lived with my husband's folks the year before we got married. We had to move back into their house and then shared an apartment with them. It was rough on both parties, but we made the best of it. We tried our best to stay out of each other's hair.

Then, a year later, my husband and I moved our belongings to Greenville, SC. It was the second time we lived far from family, so this time, I didn't get emotional at the drop of a hat. I was happy to get my freedom back and have my own place again.

People often ask me if I miss my family. Those people don't understand because they have their family front and center and can hop in the car to see them whenever they want. Sometimes you have to go where the jobs are.

Did I choose to be THIS far from family? Did I see myself being 600 miles away from my family? No, but I wasn't able to find a job in PA. So, we had to make the choice to move. I do love Greenville, but I don't see myself living here forever. We both took a chance and moved here hoping things would pan out. Unlike Tennessee, this time it worked out for the best. 

So, on the days when I miss my family so much it hurts, I distract myself by focusing on something else. Working out, reading my magazines, writing, talking to a friend, drinking a good cup of coffee. I do anything to stop myself from burying myself. And, this is why I don't like visiting family or having family visit us because of how I feel when they leave.

For those of you who have had to relocate to another state away from family, I get it. I'm here for you. Need to chat? Email me: simplyrealhope@gmail.com