When I was single, I was so sick of people saying, “oh, it’s just not meant to be.”
I’d cringe every time I’d hear someone mumble those damn words.
I understand they were trying to make me feel better, but I just wanted to say shut the f**k up!
It never made me feel at ease. It just annoyed me and made me want to slap them.
It’s funny that I bring this up because I’ve caught myself saying this phrase to my single friends. But, sometimes, I just don’t know what to say.
I mean, in my heart I know my girls will find the right guy, but I just don’t know when that will be.
Here’s the thing: when I met my husband, I wasn’t looking for a relationship. In fact, I didn’t want to have anything to do with men. I was so tired of dating guys, so I focused on my career instead. But, then, one day, Brett came along and the rest is history.
So, this is the advice I can give you: it will happen when you least expect it because well, life is so unpredictable and you cannot predict when the right guy will come along.
But, for those who are telling girls that prince charming is right around the corner, please stop unless you have like a crystal ball. If you can, in fact, see the future then I’ll allow you to say that phrase and tell me what's ahead because I'd sure as hell like to know!
There’s also one thing you must remember: even though you crave a guy to take care of you, there are pros to being single.
You get plenty alone time to focus on hobbies, writing, crafts and hanging with friends. Also, you don’t have to worry about checking in with your guy or getting to know his friends. And, I'm sure there are other things but I'm just going to leave you with the two most important!
Just keep those pros in mind late at night when you want to cuddle with someone.
It’s natural to want to be with someone because we all want to be loved, but unfortunately the more you want something, it never really happens. It usually occurs when you don’t care or aren’t looking for a boyfriend.
And, that’s not bullshit, it really does normally happen like that.
I just want people to stop feeding you lines because they’d like to make you feel better because it doesn’t help or work!
Just tell me to focus on my own stuff and then at some point the guy I’m destined to be with will walk by.