Please Stop Saying Prince Charming Is Right Around The Corner

When I was single, I was so sick of people saying, “oh, it’s just not meant to be.”

I’d cringe every time I’d hear someone mumble those damn words.

I understand they were trying to make me feel better, but I just wanted to say shut the f**k up!

It never made me feel at ease. It just annoyed me and made me want to slap them.

It’s funny that I bring this up because I’ve caught myself saying this phrase to my single friends. But, sometimes, I just don’t know what to say. 

I mean, in my heart I know my girls will find the right guy, but I just don’t know when that will be.

Here’s the thing: when I met my husband, I wasn’t looking for a relationship. In fact, I didn’t want to have anything to do with men. I was so tired of dating guys, so I focused on my career instead. But, then, one day, Brett came along and the rest is history.

So, this is the advice I can give you: it will happen when you least expect it because well, life is so unpredictable and you cannot predict when the right guy will come along.

But, for those who are telling girls that prince charming is right around the corner, please stop unless you have like a crystal ball. If you can, in fact, see the future then I’ll allow you to say that phrase and tell me what's ahead because I'd sure as hell like to know!

There’s also one thing you must remember: even though you crave a guy to take care of you, there are pros to being single.

You get plenty alone time to focus on hobbies, writing, crafts and hanging with friends.  Also, you don’t have to worry about checking in with your guy or getting to know his friends. And, I'm sure there are other things but I'm just going to leave you with the two most important!

Just keep those pros in mind late at night when you want to cuddle with someone.

It’s natural to want to be with someone because we all want to be loved, but unfortunately the more you want something, it never really happens. It usually occurs when you don’t care or aren’t looking for a boyfriend.

And, that’s not bullshit, it really does normally happen like that.

I just want people to stop feeding you lines because they’d like to make you feel better because it doesn’t help or work!

Just tell me to focus on my own stuff and then at some point the guy I’m destined to be with will walk by.

I Promise, Good Guys Still Exist

“I’m just not sure that there are good guys out there anymore,” my best friend said to me. “I’m actually pretty frustrated."

I assured her that there are still good guys out there. She merely hasn’t met the right guy as of yet. But, one day, she’ll meet him.

She vouched to be single for a whole year and so, I think it was the universe telling her that she needs to abide by her rule. However, I told her not to give up on guys because there are still gentleman out there, but maybe she and other women either need to look a tad closer, lower their expectations or just wait for him to come.

And, so, the guys who are primarily put in the “friend zone” are the ones who get looked past. They’re the ones who will always be there for you, support you no matter what, be your shoulder to lean on and most of all, always listen.

I promise, guys like that still exist.

Maybe you won’t say it at first glance, but I can assure you I have a good husband. His demeanor may tell you otherwise, but if he wasn’t a good guy, I wouldn’t have married him.

He was usually the man women looked past.

He was catfished and even was the guy who girls just went to for an ear. However, to women, he was never boyfriend material.

There are plenty of guys out there like that.

I won’t debate that it’s hard to find a genuine guy. Most guys just want to sleep with you, but then, there are others who just love being in your company. They want companionship.

Most men are immature.

But, that doesn’t mean you should give up on men, but I didn't say "all."

“Don’t give up,” I told my best friend. “You’ll find that guy one day.”

For some women, it might take a little longer to settle down, but it will happen. I’m proof of that. And, I’m here to tell you to keep dating. Also, it occurs when you least expect it. So, do not plan to magically meet a guy.

Don’t over think it. Don’t yearn for a relationship. Just let it happen.