How To Lower Your Expectations When Having A Newborn

Every day, I have a list of stuff that needs to get done.

Marketing for my business. Creating blog posts + Instagram content . Laundry. Cleaning. Running errands. And, the list goes on.

But, most days, I can get only 1 thing done.

When we first brought my daughter home, I seriously thought it was going to be a breeze. I figured I would be able to FINALLY work on my business items while she slept.

Now looking back, I had no idea and how could I? I’ve never had a child before, so how would I know?

In the early days, my husband worked a lot and I cared for my daughter basically the whole day until he stepped in and could take her while I showered. I couldn’t make dinner, do laundry, clean, create blogs, nothing and I’d cry because nothing was done! My husband had to come home after a long day and make dinner, clean and do all the stuff I wasn’t able to and I felt lazy. I felt guilty because he was working AND picking up after me.

Add that to the fact that I was still recovering, so I could only do bare minimum anyway.

So, after 2 months, I have FINALLY learned that I cannot set my expectations so high because I often feel guilty when I don’t get to do the things I need to. I’ve learned that if I can get just 1 thing done, I’ll feel accomplished. If I can do more than that, that’s even better! But, feeling satisfied with 1 task is something that I had to learn.

It’s all about taking baby steps. And, since we don’t have family here, it’s even harder. But, I’m proud of myself! I’m proud that we finally found a routine. I know it will always change because with a newborn, nothing is ever consistent. So, if you have a newborn and nothing is getting done, be patient, be kind to yourself and your baby. Your baby is learning just like you are and not stressing about what you could have done is the best thing I can recommend!