Are you depriving yourself?

Deprivation: depriving oneself of something or someone

One cookie will not make you gain weight nor will one donut. It would take many cookies + many donuts that would make you pack on the pounds. You need to stop believing everything you hear + read on Google. You need to sift through the truth and “marketing tactics” these companies continue to convince their consumers about.

Is it hard? Yes because all our lives we're taught different things when it comes to nutrition. Forget what you learned! All you need to know is this:

  • eat less processed foods re: TV dinners, pre-packaged salads with “chicken,” or frozen chicken tenders

  • Less sugar

  • More grains (unless you have celiac disease)

  • More veggies

And, bam, that is IT! There’s no special formula, trick or tactic that you need to follow. You wouldn’t be depriving yourself and you can still lose weight.

We need to reminder food is fuel, food is medicine and stop thinking about it as our enemy. It’s hard to change your mindset around food. I know because I’m still trying to view food as fuel. But, it can happen.

That is IF you’re ready to change your mindset and be open to trying new foods. Are you willing to substitute plant-based food for animal products a few times a week in order to lose weight? Are you willing to start listening to your body? I mean REALLY listening. No, you cannot have a conversation with your body, but can determine if you’re hungry or thirsty.

It takes time and effort. You could put this energy into changing your mindset instead of “dieting” because let’s face it…. dieting SUCKS.

Most likely all you plan on consuming are salads, smoothies. But, you’re unable to eat fries, burgers, cookies or even cupcakes? Not even 1? Eating SALAD every single day as “punishment” is not a way to live. It just sounds horrifying! It doesn’t have to be that way - I promise.

If you’re ready to change your mindset + stop the dieting mentality, let’s chat! If you want to learn about balancing nutrition + healthy relationships and so much more, why not schedule a FREE health consultation? I promise it will be worthwhile if you’re ready + willing to change your ways. Let’s get you on the road to feeling healthier + happier.

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The Day I Realized I Had Become "The Nagging Wife"

Let me be real with you on this topic. In my blog, I plan on being transparent, truthful and authentic, so this is something couples rarely talk about, so I figured I’d shed some light.

It was on a Saturday morning when I realized I’d somehow become “the nagging wife.”

“Do you really have to eat that whole bagel?” I asked my husband. “Carbs are the enemy.” He shrugged it off as I proceeded to continuously ask him the same question which lead to him ignoring me. Unfortunately, this sort of situation is a common occurrence.

About a year into dating, I began nagging him about his eating habits. He’s a binge eater and sometimes eats when he’s not hungry, which in my opinion isn’t healthy. Me on the other hand who is overly obsessive about my weight and stomach only eats when I’m hungry, which is the norm. But, still, the person who is self-conscious about her own weight is telling her husband what to do when it comes to eating.

“I’m a much bigger person than you, Hope and need to consume more calories. I can’t eat pea-sized meals like you,” he said. And, you know what? He’s right. It seems I’ve projected my body issues onto him. It seems I’ve become the woman who is pushy and controlling.

In the last year, I’d say I've become “that” wife. The type of wife who pouts if he doesn’t give me enough attention, the wife who gets pissed off if he watches football every Sunday for a few hours, the type of woman who tells their husband what he can and cannot eat. Ew. I’ve always told myself I would never ever act like that because it’s appalling.

Every time I start to nag my husband about this and that, I need to remember that it’s really annoying and not helpful. There are other ways to get my point across and nagging is definitely not the route to go.

On that Saturday, as we drove in the car, all I could think about was hopping out due to embarrassment. I finally listened to myself and sounded really immature. I was always the cool and laid-back girl who let situations roll off her shoulders, so why have I turned into a control freak?

Going forward, when I start to become “that wife,” I need to step back, and just let It go.  I am not going to be in control of every situation and monitoring his eating is only hurting our relationship. The more I push, the more he’ll start to distance himself.

If you’re in this type of situation, here are some key aspects to keep in mind.

1) Being a controlling wife is annoying. Need I elaborate?

2) If he doesn’t tell you what you can and cannot eat, then why do the same for him?

3) Stop projecting your self-conscious body issues onto him and deal with them YOURSELF. Harsh, but true!

4) When you feel yourself in a nagging mood, do something to distract yourself so you don’t go down that path.

Have you ever gone through a similar situation? If so, how’d you handle it?

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